Subscriber Account active since. Crushes can be all-consuming — even when we know someone is unavailable, or perhaps just not the best fit for us, it can be hard to get rid of those intense feelings. INSIDER spoke with three relationship experts who gave us the lowdown on how to get over that unrequited love, in a way that is both healthy and productive. Getting swept up in a crush can make us feel out of control, but one of the best ways to get a handle on those feelings and heal from them is to get them out there by talking to someone you trust — a friend or family member that won’t judge your feelings, or a licensed therapist or counselor are all great options. In other cases, having a sounding board for guidance can help to work through finding a solution so you can either fix your own issue or fix the issues in your relationship by returning to the other person with a suggestion for moving forward. Opening up about your feelings with someone can help by hearing about things they’ve learned in the love department, too. Shane told us that “it can also get you the opportunity to learn from them about their past and current relationships,” helping you gather a bit of outside perspective. I recommend keeping a note in your phone about the person you’re crushing on. Write the date and then write out what’s going on, how you’re feeling, what you’re happy with, frustrated with, wishing was different.
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